Life has this tendency of throwing a whole bunch of stuff at you at the same time. Your car needs fixing, and your bills come due, and you get sick so you have to miss a day or two of work, and maybe your kids/pets/spouse are having some sort of crisis that needs your undivided attention to sort it immediately. If you are like me, and many other middle class people, it can be tough to field one emergency at a time, let alone three or four. The financial strain of all these different things, in addition to missing work, make it incredibly easy to stress out and fall into pits of anxiety. This is normally when I find procrastinating to be a little bit helpful.
I know that depression and procrastination are two things that can feed off of each other and create some clusterfuck of self-deprecating cycles. Maybe it would be better to call it a pause. It’s very important, when you have a thousand things piling up in front of you, to put it all aside for a moment and breathe. Take twenty minutes, play some of your favorite music, light some incense or a candle and do whatever you need to do to help you decompress. Whatever is on your plate right now will still be there after your pause. Give yourself permission to take a beat.
I’m the type of person who really likes to take the stressors in my life and get them sorted right away. My logic is that if I deal with it now when it’s a baby stressor, then it won’t turn into a big stressor that will take more time, energy, and money to sort. It also frees my capacity up for other stressors to come into my life. In my mind, if I just save them for later, or think to myself “it’s not a big deal now, I’ll just handle it later” then there will come a time when I have something that I have to deal with RIGHT NOW, but I also have three or four on the back burner that I was saving for a rainy day. All of a sudden, I’m overwhelmed and unable to handle everything at once and my poor boyfriend has to coax me off the cliff I’ve built for myself.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely not condoning putting your whole life on hold and running away for days and days. That’s an unhealthy coping mechanism that can cause so much more trouble than the original problems. But taking a moment for self care and self love is just as important as taking on your life head on.